Dear Janice- this was hard to read because I could feel your pain. Hank and I have been in this same place, but thankfully cooler heads prevailed and we put it back together. We know we are better together than apart.
You have both been through a lot of stress and upheaval lately. Don’t make any rash decisions from a place of emotional exhaustion. Maybe you need time to wallow in the pain of the last months by acknowledging what a difficult time it’s been and crying - a lot. Could you agree to hold off on a decision for a while and maybe you could escape to a quiet place for a few days by yourself to really be with yourself and tend to the exhausted, traumatized parts of yourself. Just a suggestion.
It seems you have been good for each other and maybe it’s worth saving. I’m sending you a big hug and wishing for peace in your heart and mind no matter which way it goes. ❤️
PS- You should be the one to stay if it comes to that.