Dennett- Your disappointment is understandable! How deflating to have your hopes dashed. And to have Ben not be sympathetic is a double blow.
I think some of the ideas people have shared here are good. Don’t give up just yet. Chase is not the only contractor in town. I think if you want butcher block you should get it - even if you just do a section in bb. Your kitchen is very pretty, but so is mine and there are things I would change if I could. You’re the one who works in there so you should get what you want. Please research other options before you give up!
Sending hugs and wishing for magical solutions to come your way! ❤️