Fenna - Thank you for your comments. Yes, the haters can be really harsh, and I have to choose my mental health over being a punching bag for angry, wounded people.

That said, I do appreciate your thoughts, and I thank you for your kindness. One of the things that gets left out when adult children don't get why parents are clueless and upset about the estrangement IS the societal expectations that your children will love you for all time and be a comfort to you in your old age. And, (many)parents put so much of their heart and soul into raising their children it's a terrible loss when they estrange themselves. Expectations x Investment x (often fierce)Parental love = extreme loss when you lose the relationship. It is the hardest thing I have ever had to endure. But because of my fierce love for my daughter, I have learned to honor her need for distance and continue to love her from afar. Family dynamics are not rosy and easy, and the sooner we learn to expect less family devotion at all costs the better.

Thanks again for your comments. I wish you well. ♥