I ALWAYS feel guilty for not doing enough, but you’re right. The assholes feel entitled to their lack of contribution.
I have been estranged from my brother and sister for years. When mom died last year the door slammed shut. For years I grieved and lived with so much shame. I must be a horrible person and I am unworthy of love.
But I finally realized I am not a bad person, and the fact they chose to cut me out is more about them than me.