Jenny, I identify as a highly sensitive person and a lot of my challenges are similar to yours. I am also an introvert and socially awkward at times. I need a lot of time to decompress and recover from too much stimulation- even happy time spent with those I love. Put me in a crowd of people I don’t know and I will gravitate to a quiet corner.
I love your term “mis-ability”. It feels like that’s what I have, too. ❤️