…within is always wise, but again I’ll caution that this advice can be hurtful to alienated parents. No amount of self-fixing will remove the toxic external influence. You feel like nothing short of complete perfection is expected by people, and you’d still strive for that absurd impossibility to get your child back, and it still won’t work.
n.b. — Thank you so much for your response. What I want to say about the paragraph I highlighted is that the emphasis is not on fixing yourself so you can be more perfect, but healing yourself so you can be more self-compassionate.
The pain of having a child walk out of your life — no matter the reason — is one that none of us as parents are ever prepared to handle. We all do the best we can, and if we are lucky, we find some support along the way.
I appreciate your hopes for my daughter and me. I wish you the best, as well.