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Please Don’t Try to Fix Me; Just Listen to Me
We all need someone to “hold space” for us
Have you ever been in the place where your life felt like a whack-a-mole game and the moles were winning?
That is what my life has been like lately. I am sure that everyone has experienced times like this. It’s hard. It makes you start thinking about a little island in the South Pacific somewhere — a place with lots of drinks topped with little umbrellas. And no people you know. (That’s my fantasy!)
The hardest thing about difficult times in our lives is feeling like we are alone. We may have people around us, and some of them may be friends and family, but unless one of those people know how to “hold space” for us when we are struggling, we can feel very lonely. This makes it difficult to go on.
I realized that my resistance was not really to the hard things I have been doing. My resistance was to doing them without anyone acknowledging how hard it has been. I felt unseen. I felt alone in my struggle.
Many times, when we are struggling, the ones closest to us want to jump in and fix things for us, or worse, fix us. People tend to be uncomfortable with…
