Stop Trying to Fix People and Just Be There For Them

Why is it so hard to allow people to struggle with difficult emotions?

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  1. We tell them that they have no right to feel that way, because that is what we do to ourselves.
  2. We try to get them to snap out of it, because that is what we do to ourselves.

The thing is, what most of us want is permission to feel whatever we feel.

I grew up in a house where we were not allowed to express anger, displeasure, frustration or any other “bad” emotions without repercussions. My father often told us if we didn’t stop crying he would give us something to cry about. The implication was that what made us cry in the first place was not a legitimate feeling so we were crying over nothing. This infraction would often result in a spanking.

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