Todd- I have learned that the self-hating part is really trying to protect me from the shame of having others tell me I’m unworthy. It is a preemptive strike. By befriending that part, I am able to thank it for trying to protect me but assure it I will be ok no matter what. This has tamed the self-hatred and released self-caring. I hope you find a way to quiet your inner hater, as well. I wish you peace.